I’m having a serious problem with how a lot of people are handling the Supreme Gentleman. To most people (most likely not that those reading, mind you), it seems like this is an issue of mental illness.
To some degree, yes. It is. You have to be messed up to do what he did. There’s a line he crossed that the typical “Nice Guy” doesn’t. A barrier that just wasn’t entirely there. They are really messed up freaks by my standards but not killers. Clearly there is something different with the Supreme Gentleman, but if Nice Guy Syndrome wasn’t so prevalent, would he have made the jump he made? I don’t think so.
Nice Guy Syndrome is, to me, one of the more sinister forms of misogyny. Part of the reason is that it brands itself. It seems to have an outreach program. It says it is something. Something that it isn’t. Specifically, that those guys are nice when they pretty clearly hate the idea women are people.
And that is the most important part: serious hatred for women as people. People who make their their own decisions, make their own mistakes and celebrate their own triumphs. They get to choose who they want to be with, and what it is that attracts them to another human being is their own business. If muscles are attractive to them, guess what? That is allowed because women are people. People are allowed not to love a massive whiner who says “m’lady” while intrusively performing chivalrous actions even though they don’t know if it’s actually what the woman actually wants, and even just when to actually do it.
If a woman wants to be with or simply finds a jock, gym-going “brute” - even with little or no respect for women - more interesting, it’s perfectly fine. If she wants to be with a scientist or a philosopher, that’s fine as well. It’s all completely perfect. That’s called freedom. That’s how it works. It’s called agency.
You don’t automatically have respect for women when you think you know better than them. In fact, you actually have none. You think women are slutty when they choose literally anyone that isn’t you? You don’t respect women. You don’t even like the idea of them, in reality. You look at women like Pokemon, in truth. You have a favorite type, you have purposes for them. You want them for a reason, not for many reasons. They aren’t multi-dimensional, they are just above a tool/instrument. If they could just only say “Wantsex, Wantsex!” (in lieu of “Pika, Pika!”) instead of having conversations about things a person might care about.
These people are collectors, just like all the other misogynists.
This attitude is why this happened. The whole “you won’t fuck me despite the fact I treat you with a bare minimum of slightly decent behavior? YOU BITCH. FUCK YOU CUNT.” is why this happened. Not mental illness. This guy would not, and I repeat would not, have had his sights so intensely set on women if this attitude had been addressed societally at some point.
There is a breed of man right now which truly hate the idea of women as people. They see them as puzzles at best, pets at worst. People don’t have to make sense, they don’t have to look a certain way, and they don’t have to like you. You feed a dog and they love you. They hate the idea that women aren’t like that.
And women aren’t like that. Even the most “low-maintenance” female adult is more complex than that. And they HATE this. Even if they don’t know it, they just haven’t sorted it out consciously. They HATE the idea of a multi-dimensional, thoughtful, independent-of-their-own-desires ENTITY that operates in the same way they do themselves.
It’s what’s encouraged in Men’s Rights communities. They all think they are perfect for women, its women that have it wrong. You’re nurtured to hate the idea of women as people, so the fact women ARE people makes you hate women. And that’s the absolutely inevitable conclusion when dealing with Nice Guy Syndrome. The Nice Guy isn’t nice; the Nice Guy thinks he knows better than both other men and the object (notice the usage of this word) of his affections and since he is only passively aggressive, that he somehow is so much better than other men that don’t even know.
This mindset was the Supreme Gentleman’s (and one you can bet your ass my son will never have). I call him that rather than the Virgin Killer (the media’s name for him) because he is one of many who think this way. He was just the one ill enough to go that far. You probably are somehow connected, either through a friend or directly, to someone who isn’t mentally ill and has literally the *exact* same thought process as this violent killer. Think about that.